A Little Background
My husband and I have been together for 6 years total and are about to celebrate our 5th wedding anniversary this May. It blows me away when I think of all the ways our lives have changed in a seemingly short amount of time. We’ve lived in and owned 3 houses in two different towns. We have 2 babies. There have been a few job changes. To be honest, life has been a bit of a blur.
I’m no expert, by any means, but I have experienced some life changes big enough that I needed some help adjusting. So, I compiled a list of 5 things that helped me make it through and live my best life:
1. Focus on God
Now, if you’re not religious, this one might not be for you. However, if you’ve put your trust in God, this is a big one. It’s easy to get flustered and distracted by all the changes and busyness, but putting God above the “To-Do” lists can make things so much better. I’ve noticed that when I take some time with God first thing in the morning, (it can be a quick 10 minutes) my day gets going in the right direction. The same goes when experiencing big changes. When your focus is on God first, its easy to see things a little more clearly. Sometimes it’s hard to understand why things are changing or what there is to be grateful for in the middle of the chaos, but He’ll bring you back. God is unchanging and provides so much comfort and stability.
2. Surround Yourself With Loved Ones
When I say “loved ones” I don’t just mean family here. Surround yourself with anybody that you love, trust, respect, and that knows your heart. If you’re moving away from those people, find ways to connect with them as you adjust to your new surroundings. Texting, calling, social media, and some snail mail are great ways to keep you feeling connected and not so “homesick”. If your big change has nothing to do with moving, being surrounded by those we cherish still brings comfort, laughter, and words of wisdom that we just can’t get anywhere else. They’re the ones that know just what you need without having to ask. This kind of support is invaluable.
3. Do More Of What You Love
This one sounds a bit cliché, but it works. Doing things that make you happy, helps with overall adjustment and happiness. While things around you might be changing, doing those things you’ve always enjoyed can create a sense of security. Whether it be running, journaling, drawing, swimming, crocheting, woodworking, reading, etc., it doesn’t matter what you love, just do it! In my experience, taking time for a little self-care makes a big difference in my mood. Trying new things and finding new hobbies along with whatever change you’re already experiencing can be fun. Just try to keep an open mind. If it brings you joy (and it’s not illegal or harmful), do it!
4. Nourish Your Body
Again, I’m not an expert, but I do know good things happen inside our minds and bodies when we take time to take care of our health. If this isn’t really your thing, it can be, and it can make a big difference to how you cope with changes. A bunch of small actions lead to big results over time. When I get stressed out, I love a big glass of Pepsi and a Reeces candy bar. Or ice cream, I loooove ice cream. But I know those things don’t solve any problems or make me feel better in the end. If I drink lots of water and eat fresher foods, I feel so much better. I think more clearly. I have more energy. My mood is better overall. I feel like I have more control over my life and whatever is going on in it.
5. Read A Self-Help Book
This one might seem a bit silly or obvious, but trust me. Sometimes we think we have the answers or that everything will work out in the end, but sometimes what we really need is a boost in motivation, wisdom, and real solutions. If you don’t like to read, start small. You may surprise yourself, if you pick the book and author that fits you best. My latest favorite has been “Girl Wash Your Face” by Rachel Hollis. Her words have been just what I needed to make my own changes and make things happen to make life a little better. Changes are scary sometimes, but reading about someone who’s been through the same thing or who has felt the same way, can be really comforting.
I hope this list helps you with whatever big life changes you’re going through. I’d love to hear your feedback in the comments or learn what it is that helps you cope and adjust the best. Just remember, adjusting to new things doesn’t have to be sudden. It’s ok to take your time to process things. Just do whatever is best for YOU.