Can I be real for a sec? Some days, I forget to brush my toddlers teeth. (I know, terrible mom, right?!) It’s probably one of my biggest “mom guilts”, yet I still seem to forget. And how could I? I mean, I’m not sure what death smells like, specifically, but I’m pretty sure it’s something similar to the air that surrounds a sweet “good morning, mom” from my three year old. I totally care about his dental health and that he has good teeth and all that, but it’s just something that slips my mind way more times than it should.
That’s mom life, though, isn’t it? Teeth brushing, bed making, bath giving, making sure the shoes are on the right feet and the t-shirt isn’t backwards. There are a million and one things you have to do for these littles right along with getting things done for yourself! There are a million and one things expected of us. Whether you’re a stay-at-home-mom, work-from-home-mom, or a mom that works outside of the house, it makes no difference. Being a mom is a huge responsibility. There are SO many jobs and expectations that come along with “being a mom”. Sometimes, things get pushed to the side and life gets a bit chaotic and crazy. And you know what? It’s ok.
I confessed something that I do, that often makes me feel inadequate so you’ll know: forgetting to do something, from time to time, that should be considered important, is ok. While I do believe mamas are a special kind of superhuman, taking care of families and homes and themselves and so so much more on very little sleep…at the end of the day, we’re all just human and truly, we’re not perfect. We all need buckets of grace. Forgetting to brush my kid’s teeth every now and then does not make me a bad mom. Not always wanting to read one more story before bed does not make me a bad mom. Skipping out on bath night and going straight to jammies does not make me a bad mom. Giving my kid a fruit snack at 9:30 in the morning so they won’t cry still does not make me a bad mom. While those certainly aren’t my shining moments as a mother, it doesn’t mean I’m failing.
Sometimes we have to do what we have to do to get through the day. We all have something. Just remember, YOU ARE A GOOD MOM! (That’s a little reminder for myself, as well.) Life with those kiddos can get overwhelming. As much as we try to plan and schedule and prepare, kids are unpredictable and you just never know what’s really coming next with them. So whatever it is today that you forgot to do or let them do, even though you normally never would, go forth with confidence that everything will be ok. You’re not ruining your kids or being a bad mom. You’re just being a mom that’s doing her best.